Romantic
"What are they actually telling me?"
The decoding lens. Romantic Lens analyses two things in parallel: the other person (current partner, dating prospect, ex) and the relationship dynamic between you two. It reads attachment style, interest signals, repair patterns, and the direction of travel from the conversation you've actually had.
Try Romantic Lens freeWho this lens is for
The people who reread screenshots.
The recently-confused
Something shifted and you can't tell if you're imagining it. You've reread the last week of messages four times. Romantic Lens reads them for you.
The dater
Three weeks in, you can't tell if this is going somewhere. The lens reads tempo, reciprocity, and the small tells the chat is giving you.
The post-mortem reader
It ended. You want to know what you missed and what wasn't yours to fix. Drop in the chat and let the modules answer.
The Eleven Modules
What's inside a Romantic reading.
Romantic is the lens with the most modules, because the questions are the most varied. You can read all eleven, or jump straight to the one keeping you up.
- Relationship Energy ScoreRising · steady · declining. A single line for where the dynamic is heading.
- TrajectoryA read on the next three months if nothing changes — and what to change first.
- Attachment IndicatorsSecure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganised — for them. Quoted lines included.
- Interest SignalsEngaged, ambivalent, drifting. Reply tempo, opener rate, who keeps the plan alive.
- Communication DynamicWhose words shape the conversation, and how the volume balance has shifted.
- Engagement PatternsBid-for-connection moments — what they made, what they accepted, what they let pass.
- Emotional DepthHow vulnerable the chat actually is. Surface, sincere, or somewhere in between.
- Conflict PatternsHow the two of you repair — or don't. Stonewalling, soft starts, contempt, contempt's opposite.
- Green FlagsThe specific moments that gave you reason to trust them. With receipts.
- Caution AreasPatterns to watch for — without framing them as red flags before you're ready.
- Your PatternsWhat you're bringing into the dynamic. The one place Romantic Lens reads you, gently.
A line from a real reading
What Romantic Lens sounds like.
"He answers warmly, but he answers slowly — averaging four hours and never on weekends. The pattern says 'interested but not prioritising.' That's not a verdict; it's a tempo. If you want him to set the pace, this is the pace he is setting."
Useful to know
What Romantic Lens does — and doesn't.
What Romantic Lens does
- Reads the other person's behaviour from their messages
- Names attachment style with specific quoted lines
- Tracks tempo, reciprocity, and emotional bid patterns
- Tells you the trajectory if the conversation continues as-is
- Surfaces what you are bringing into the dynamic, too
What Romantic Lens doesn't
- It does not predict whether they'll commit to you
- It does not diagnose them with personality disorders
- It does not pretend to read minds — only patterns in text
- It does not give scripts to manipulate them with
- It does not replace conversation. The hardest move is still yours.
Guides for this lens
If you want to dig deeper.
These guides walk through the patterns this lens reads — written longer-form, for the people who want the framework before they run their own reading.
- How to tell if your partner is emotionally unavailable →
- Attachment style from your texts: anxious, avoidant, or secure? →
- Should you break up? The 5 patterns that predict the answer →
- Reading between the lines: detecting unspoken emotions →
- What your reply time really says →
- Anxious attachment or just attentive? 3 tests →
- Browse all guides →
One reading. Eleven modules. Free.
Drop in the conversation, choose Romantic, and get the full report in under three minutes.
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